What do you do when you go looking for something...only to find it? In the age of instant communication (e.g. text, phone, Internet, etc...), I find myself wishing that I only dated within the Amish community. At least I'd have less technology to compete with. Cheating, flirting, and pillow talk would all be done the old-fashioned, tedious, and ultimately sloppier way. It is way too easy for people to "reach out and touch someone" these days. I struggle with trust issues in my dating relationships. I've been burned too many times to count by secret cell phone rendezvous and Internet hookups. I find myself dating a guy only to realize there is someone on the side...or perhaps several "someones". I'd really like to know why the Internet and/or the cell phone has turned the entire dating world into a giant pool of options rather than priorities. How the hell did we get to this place?
I wish I could trust that I'm enough for the person I'm with. I long to believe that there isn't always going to be a long lost lover just waiting for the chance to rekindle old romance with my new prospect. I'd love to believe that a cell phone call-log couldn't possibly hold the key to understanding the person I'm dating. I fear that I may never be able to trust again. It seems like something old...something new...something borrowed ...someone he blew...is just a text or a call away. I've said for a long time that trust is a choice. I'm beginning to wonder just how sound that whole idea is. Can we really just choose to trust...even when the texts roll in at 4am? Or, do we find ourselves tiptoeing around in the dark like some sort of suspicious wife in a Lifetime movie...waiting to snatch the phone and get the real story?
I'm big enough to realize that I do not have all the answers. That's why you may notice I spend a lot of time asking questions in the articles I write. I truly believe that sharing my experiences can not only help me; but could very well help others who find themselves in the similar circumstances.
The Bottom Line:
Sometimes a text is just a text. Trust, however, is much trickier.
